Curfew Call

It seems that an awful lot of people are getting their knickers in a twist because the Green Party’s Baroness Jones made a call for a 6pm curfew to be enforced upon men in the wake of the death of Sarah Everard.

People are suggesting that it is a ridiculous proposition, not least because it suggests that all men are culpable for the actions of a few.

Well, yes, I think that was precisely her point, wasn’t it? It’s a ridiculous notion, in exactly the same way as is the suggestion that women shouldn’t be out on their own after dark, or that they should be mindful of how they dress in case it “provokes” an assault.

Violence towards and intimidation of women is a widespread social issue that we too often pretend doesn’t exist, until once in a while it comes to a head like this. What we are faced with is a societal problem and it requires a societal solution – not just knee-jerk reactions or ridiculous sweeping statements. We need to be looking out for each other as a cohesive society, and we need to be eradicating misogynistic attitudes that too often still regard girls and women as little more than vessels for male lust.

Not that there’s anything wrong with lust! Far from it – let’s not get puritanical here: lust is one of the things that keeps life interesting and fun – but it has its time and its place, and that isn’t on the street where people are just going about their daily business or trying to get home.

And, please, don’t tell me that these attitudes are only banter – or {shudder} “bantz” – because that’s where attitudes become embedded: sexism, racism, creedism: all those baseless prejudices. We pretend that it’s only humour but we all know there’s something far darker at play. If your behaviour is making somebody else uncomfortable then that isn’t fun, it’s bullying – no matter what the intent may have been or what spin you put upon it afterwards.

In this world there is no “them and us”; there’s just us, and we need to start thinking that way. We need to find solutions together that will keep us all safe and allow us to live in harmony.

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About Fles

Early middle-aged (oh yes I am!), no longer long-haired but still speccy and decidedly still an increasingly opinionated git. I’m basically a believer in individualism, that everybody has their own perspective and inner-beauty. I try to find humour in every situation. I enjoy reading and writing poetry.
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1 Response to Curfew Call

  1. Jamie Adams says:

    Good point, well made.

    You know, all this.. stuff got me thinking about how we prepared our teenage daughter for going about in the world. Don’t wear your headphones while waking. Keep your wits about you. Don’t walk while staring at your phone. Ring us when you get there. Ring us when you set off back.

    All said with the right intentions, but what we’ve done is set in her mind that there is the potential for danger at all times – which there is – and I think most women make their way about with that knowledge too. I’d not given it much thought before.

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