I see that the Church of England is refusing to offer gay weddings or civil partnerships. To be perfectly honest, I don’t really care because I agree that it’s a bad idea: making any kind of lifelong commitment to a relationship based on a few shared interests and sex which is going to become increasingly unsatisfactory can never be a good thing.
All that aside, though, in truth it’s difficult to see why any church feels able to look with disapproval upon any kind of union, given that the basis of their congregations’ relationship with their allegedly loving god is based almost entirely upon guilt, fear and responsibility (which sounds pretty much like every relationship I’ve ever been in, now that I think of it…)
However, I would say this: there may well be no god but, even if there is one, he certainly wouldn’t be represented on Earth by any of the showers of hypocrisy and bigotry which make up the world’s recognised churches. With this in mind, nobody ought to be giving these establishments money for performing their hocus-pocus rituals in order to sanctify marriages. If the feeling is there and it’s real then that is enough – surely it is all that there can be. Maybe it will last for a lifetime and maybe it won’t, but trying to ensure its longevity through the imagined presence of some archaic spectral body looming over it makes marriage appear to be no more than a primitive superstition, and that makes a mockery of the idea of love itself. Which leads me to wonder: why doesn’t the church offer another spell for divorce? They’ve certainly missed a trick there – they could possibly double their revenue.
Personally, I have a hard time with religion anyway because the idea of a great creator who requires to be worshipped on a regular basis and who needs to be consulted on all life events would suggest an all-powerful, all-knowing supernatural being with some serious insecurity issues. The concept of such an entity also being bothered about clothing, hair, beards, circumcision and all the other claptrap that gets wrapped up in the great charade is certifiable insanity. It’s crucial to remember that all religion is a lie designed to control and manipulate people, whether god is real or not.